Using lists to give instructions to your tween can make life easier for both of you. Instead of hounding your tween about each task, you can just say, “Time to start working on your list” or “Have you done everything on your list?”
Kids often prefer using lists because they can see that there will be an end to the demands. When we rely on verbal instruction, it can feel endless to them – as if there will always be one more thing we want them to do. Using lists in this way fosters independence, teaches time management and keeps parental nagging to a minimum.
Be sure to keep the lists reasonable and realistic. You don’t want “List” to become a four-letter word in your house!
Here are some sample lists. Adapt them to fit the needs of your tween.
AFTER SCHOOL LIST
I hope you had a good day! Today you need to:
- Do your homework.
- Practice your flute.
- Put up your clean clothes. (Or whatever the chore for the day is).
- Refill your snack container for tomorrow and leave your lunch box on the kitchen counter.
- Remember that I LOVE YOU!!!
PREP for TOMORROW CHECK-LIST
(A list like this should be done in the evening to help make
getting out of the house in the morning less chaotic.)
Turn ELECTRONICS OFF
- Homework folder
- Signed agenda
Pick out CLOTHES