Parent TutorialPARENTING TUTORIAL

In our Tone Up Your Listening Skills post we gave you the ABCs of Active Listening, now see what it looks like in Action:

 

 

Tween: (big sigh) “School sucks! All my teachers hate me. I don’t know why you won’t let me go to online school. You don’t care about me.”

Lazy Listening:

            Parent:Watch your language! Your teachers don’t hate you! They just expect you to do the work! Why would I let you go to online school when you don’t show any responsibility for your work?

ACTIVE Listening:

            Parent:You are really sick of school, aren’t you?” (Then zip your lips and open your ears!)

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Tween:  “I don’t want to practice the piano. It’s boring and I can’t go out with my friends because I’m always practicing”.

Lazy Listening:

            Parent:  “The only way you will ever be good at anything is to take the time to practice. Besides, you don’t practice that much anyway. We spend a lot of money on your lessons so you should be grateful for the opportunity.”

ACTIVE Listening:

            Parent:  “I understand. It does take up some time.  It would be so much easier if you could just learn to play in a day.  I am proud of how much work you have put into it so far.”

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Tween:  “I can’t believe she thought I wouldn’t be upset. She just talked and talked about me like I wasn’t even there! And now she is ignoring me!”

Lazy Listening:

            Parent:  “You don’t need people like that around you.  Real friends do not act like that. Though it may be hard right now, you will be better off without her.”

ACTIVE Listening:

            Parent:  “Oh, I am so sorry. What is the hardest part about it?”