Welcome to Blink of Your Eye!

Parenting tweens and teens is like being on a turbulent roller coaster ride. The ride is over in the blink of your eye and you marvel at how you felt like throwing up and laughing all at the same time.

The thrilling and tumultuous experience of parenting tweens and teens is one of the most complex stages of parenting. We know. We’ve seen it as professionals (with over 40 years of combined experience) and lived it as parents ourselves.

Our blog, “car thoughts”, resources and books will help parents feel supported and inspired to confront the changes that come with adolescence beginning in the tender pre-teen (“tween”) stages.

Kids grow up in the blink of your eye and the tween ages of 9-13 are a pivotal time for parental influence.

Blink of Your Eye will show you how to maximize your influence on your tween and lay the foundation for a smoother adolescence.

And if your child is already a full-fledged teenager, we’ll show you how to parent in the midst of growing independence so your teen will be ready to enter the adult world.

Parents play the precarious and critical role of fostering independence in teens while also providing a safety net.

Blink of Your Eye aims to help parents establish a realistic and manageable balance as they raise their tween and teen children by providing useful information and celebrating the humor of this wonderfully tumultuous stage.

We recognize and appreciate the diversity of values, cultures, family structures, and personality quirks that comprise modern families and strive to provide guidance that can give parents a solid starting place for finding the right solutions for their family.

Whether you are joining us at the beginning of the tween years or as your teen prepares for the adult world, count Blink of Your Eye as an ally.

Hop on the ride with us and let us help you safely and sanely navigate your child’s adolescence!

Letting Go
My mother's words are ringing in my ears. When my first child flew from the nest, I asked my mom if she was sad when her kids left home. She gently sighed and said, "Not really."  (Okay, I have to admit there was a little pang of "Really, you weren't upset when I left home?!!") She went on to say, ... Read more
Competent Parenting: PRICELESS
Cell phone exceeding data plan: $50 Medicine for high blood pressure caused by chronic irritation: $45 Traffic ticket for running red light while arguing with your kid: $250 Dental surgery for teeth grinding during sleepless nights: $1400 Latest video game console to compensate for parenting gui... Read more
Tools for Parenting Success
Back to school often means a change in routine and more for tweens to push back against, such as homework, household chores, social time and bedtime. Don’t Look at Me in That Tone of Voice: Tween Discipline for Busy Parents has the tools you need to respond to this normal tween defiance. Kids o... Read more
Teenagers Do Stupid Things
Teenagers do stupid things. It is part of the process of becoming an adult. Making decisions and experiencing consequences is how teens learn more about themselves. Based on these experiences, they start to determine what type of people they are going to be in the world. Some of their decisions will... Read more
The Teen First Steps
When kids take their first steps it is memorable.  They may grab onto a table, steady themselves, pick their hand up from the table and then, wobbling a little back and forth, take that first step.  Their face lights up at this attempt at independence.  Everyone around them claps and cheers.  ... Read more
Transition Summer
The pomp and circumstance is over. The graduation gown is balled up in a corner of their bedroom.  The out of town relatives have gone home. The thank you notes are written (or you are still nagging your child to finish them).  You and your child have just crossed a finish line. Your teenager has ... Read more
Transition: Blink of Your Eye Will Now Also Focus on Teens
Transition.  The tween years are all about parents and children transitioning. Children experience multiple transitions:  physical changes, emotional changes and relationship changes. Parents have to learn new parenting techniques to help guide their child through these years.  Adapting to change... Read more
The Rhyme and Reason of Learning
It is very common for  tweens to question the importance of education. As their analytical brains ponder more complex issues, they call all things into question.  I came across this quote from, The Phantom Tollbooth,  one of my children's favorite books (I read this 3 times to my 3 children a... Read more
Tween Attitude
Dealing with tweens and their attitude can be like living with a moody and temperamental grizzly bear. For tips on understanding and dealing with tween attitude check out the article we wrote for the Center for Parenting Education. We discuss the causes of tween attitude, what behavior is realistic... Read more
Future Tripping & Freaking Out: Tween Fears of Middle School
In our last post, we talked about the worries that keep parents up at night as they send their tween to middle school. Like parents, tweens may also be tossing and turning, though the dialogue in their heads often sounds a little different: Will I be able to get my locker open? Will... Read more

  • Heather B.

    As we approach the middle school/tween/preteen years, we are spending some time trying to equip ourselves for our sake and our son’s for this transition. We’ve been reading a great new book that we are really excited about, so I just have to share. It’s
    called “MiddleSchool: The Inside Story- What Kids Tell Us, But Don’t Tell You,” by Cynthia Tobias and Sue Acuna. It has interviews and feedback from middle schoolers, parents and teachers (and a little humor) to help us deal with tackling social media, technology, Internet, gaming, faith, purity, puberty, communication, independence, discipline and accountability, and deepening and strengthening positive, loving relationship. It’s so rich in valuable help as we face these transitional years with our kids. I think everyone with a middle schooler or who will
    have a middle schooler will benefit from it. I highly recommend it!