Welcome to Blink of Your Eye!

Parenting tweens and teens is like being on a turbulent roller coaster ride. The ride is over in the blink of your eye and you marvel at how you felt like throwing up and laughing all at the same time.

The thrilling and tumultuous experience of parenting tweens and teens is one of the most complex stages of parenting. We know. We’ve seen it as professionals (with over 40 years of combined experience) and lived it as parents ourselves.

Our blog, “car thoughts”, resources and books will help parents feel supported and inspired to confront the changes that come with adolescence beginning in the tender pre-teen (“tween”) stages.

Kids grow up in the blink of your eye and the tween ages of 9-13 are a pivotal time for parental influence.

Blink of Your Eye will show you how to maximize your influence on your tween and lay the foundation for a smoother adolescence.

And if your child is already a full-fledged teenager, we’ll show you how to parent in the midst of growing independence so your teen will be ready to enter the adult world.

Parents play the precarious and critical role of fostering independence in teens while also providing a safety net.

Blink of Your Eye aims to help parents establish a realistic and manageable balance as they raise their tween and teen children by providing useful information and celebrating the humor of this wonderfully tumultuous stage.

We recognize and appreciate the diversity of values, cultures, family structures, and personality quirks that comprise modern families and strive to provide guidance that can give parents a solid starting place for finding the right solutions for their family.

Whether you are joining us at the beginning of the tween years or as your teen prepares for the adult world, count Blink of Your Eye as an ally.

Hop on the ride with us and let us help you safely and sanely navigate your child’s adolescence!

The Rhyme and Reason of Learning
It is very common for  tweens to question the importance of education. As their analytical brains ponder more complex issues, they call all things into question.  I came across this quote from, The Phantom Tollbooth,  one of my children's favorite books (I read this 3 times to my 3 children a... Read more
Tween Attitude
Dealing with tweens and their attitude can be like living with a moody and temperamental grizzly bear. For tips on understanding and dealing with tween attitude check out the article we wrote for the Center for Parenting Education. We discuss the causes of tween attitude, what behavior is realistic... Read more
Future Tripping & Freaking Out: Tween Fears of Middle School
In our last post, we talked about the worries that keep parents up at night as they send their tween to middle school. Like parents, tweens may also be tossing and turning, though the dialogue in their heads often sounds a little different: Will I be able to get my locker open? Will... Read more
Flashbacks and Fears: The Transition to Middle School
We posted this a while back and thought it would be helpful as we start the school year: Do you remember how you felt when your child started kindergarten? Were you the parent who tried to put on a brave face as you left the classroom and fought back tears? Or were you the parent who joyously ski... Read more
The Importance of Celebration
This time of year brings a varied response from parents and children.  Some are excited about the start of school.  For parents, they may celebrate a return to routine or the excitement of their child taking the next steps toward adulthood.  Kids may be looking forward to reconnecting with fri... Read more
Transition from Summer: Preparing for School
Here is a post from our archives that we thought would be helpful as we all get ready for the school year: August is still summer, right? Yet since the beginning of July, back to school ads have been bombarding us, thwarting any attempts to deny that summer will eventually end. I suppose it... Read more
Train Your Brain: Being Positive with Your Child
How many of you are now counting the days until school starts again? At this point in the summer, many parents and tweens are ready for a little more space between each other and both sides can get caught  a negative spiral that seems hard change.  It can seem like it would take some type of sup... Read more
Parent Child Conflict: Getting Kids to Listen
As you are probably all too aware, disagreements between tweens and parents are par for the course. (In fact, having no conflict in a family can sometimes be symptomatic of a problem.) Though it may be normal, being at loggerheads with your tween is maddening, anxiety provoking and a big drain on yo... Read more
The Science of Teen Speak
Have you every wondered if there was a rhyme or reason to those annoying sounds that can come out of our your tween?   Listen to James Harbeck.  He is a linguist and he has analyzed typical  teen and tween vocalizations.  You know the ones, the huge sigh or the big click of their tongue.  H... Read more
Dating Technology
"Instead of taking the time to come to the door and meet us, they are just off in their own little world.  Off they go.  We don't know what they say or do.  It wasn't like this when we were growing up." When you read the above statement, what comes to mind?  Cell phones, right?  Cell ph... Read more

  • Heather B.

    As we approach the middle school/tween/preteen years, we are spending some time trying to equip ourselves for our sake and our son’s for this transition. We’ve been reading a great new book that we are really excited about, so I just have to share. It’s
    called “MiddleSchool: The Inside Story- What Kids Tell Us, But Don’t Tell You,” by Cynthia Tobias and Sue Acuna. It has interviews and feedback from middle schoolers, parents and teachers (and a little humor) to help us deal with tackling social media, technology, Internet, gaming, faith, purity, puberty, communication, independence, discipline and accountability, and deepening and strengthening positive, loving relationship. It’s so rich in valuable help as we face these transitional years with our kids. I think everyone with a middle schooler or who will
    have a middle schooler will benefit from it. I highly recommend it!