Welcome to Blink of Your Eye!

Parenting tweens and teens is like being on a turbulent roller coaster ride. The ride is over in the blink of your eye and you marvel at how you felt like throwing up and laughing all at the same time.

The thrilling and tumultuous experience of parenting tweens and teens is one of the most complex stages of parenting. We know. We’ve seen it as professionals (with over 40 years of combined experience) and lived it as parents ourselves.

Our blog, “car thoughts”, resources and books will help parents feel supported and inspired to confront the changes that come with adolescence beginning in the tender pre-teen (“tween”) stages.

Kids grow up in the blink of your eye and the tween ages of 9-13 are a pivotal time for parental influence.

Blink of Your Eye will show you how to maximize your influence on your tween and lay the foundation for a smoother adolescence.

And if your child is already a full-fledged teenager, we’ll show you how to parent in the midst of growing independence so your teen will be ready to enter the adult world.

Parents play the precarious and critical role of fostering independence in teens while also providing a safety net.

Blink of Your Eye aims to help parents establish a realistic and manageable balance as they raise their tween and teen children by providing useful information and celebrating the humor of this wonderfully tumultuous stage.

We recognize and appreciate the diversity of values, cultures, family structures, and personality quirks that comprise modern families and strive to provide guidance that can give parents a solid starting place for finding the right solutions for their family.

Whether you are joining us at the beginning of the tween years or as your teen prepares for the adult world, count Blink of Your Eye as an ally.

Hop on the ride with us and let us help you safely and sanely navigate your child’s adolescence!

Explaining the Changes of the Tween Years
There are a lot of transformations that occur during the tween and teen years.  Many of the emotional changes begin as early as eight or nine, long before the physical signs of adolescence. Tweens can become confused and overwhelmed during these beginning stages.  They often have difficulty coping... Read more
Taming the Entitled Teen & Tween
Do you ever feel that no matter how much you buy or do for your tween or teen that it is never enough? Do you ever feel taken for granted and unappreciated by your kid? Do you ever worry that your tween or teen feels entitled to things that she hasn’t earned? Most parents can answer yes to thi... Read more
Psychology of Punishment
Figuring out to approach discipline can be a challenge in the tween and teen years.  Take a listen to this very interesting talk on the psychology of punishment.  Listen all the way to the end of the talk (it is short, about 5 minutes), they say some interesting things about how it applies to chil... Read more
Fostering Gratitude
The holidays are the season that we can take time to appreciate friends and family.  The practice of gratitude and its effects are now a surging area of research.  Check out this article from the Greater Good Center at the University of California, Berkeley.  It discussed ways to foster gratitude... Read more
Letting Go
My mother's words are ringing in my ears. When my first child flew from the nest, I asked my mom if she was sad when her kids left home. She gently sighed and said, "Not really."  (Okay, I have to admit there was a little pang of "Really, you weren't upset when I left home?!!") She went on to say, ... Read more
Competent Parenting: PRICELESS
Cell phone exceeding data plan: $50 Medicine for high blood pressure caused by chronic irritation: $45 Traffic ticket for running red light while arguing with your kid: $250 Dental surgery for teeth grinding during sleepless nights: $1400 Latest video game console to compensate for parenting gui... Read more
Tools for Parenting Success
Back to school often means a change in routine and more for tweens to push back against, such as homework, household chores, social time and bedtime. Don’t Look at Me in That Tone of Voice: Tween Discipline for Busy Parents has the tools you need to respond to this normal tween defiance. Kids o... Read more
Teenagers Do Stupid Things
Teenagers do stupid things. It is part of the process of becoming an adult. Making decisions and experiencing consequences is how teens learn more about themselves. Based on these experiences, they start to determine what type of people they are going to be in the world. Some of their decisions will... Read more
The Teen First Steps
When kids take their first steps it is memorable.  They may grab onto a table, steady themselves, pick their hand up from the table and then, wobbling a little back and forth, take that first step.  Their face lights up at this attempt at independence.  Everyone around them claps and cheers.  ... Read more
Transition Summer
The pomp and circumstance is over. The graduation gown is balled up in a corner of their bedroom.  The out of town relatives have gone home. The thank you notes are written (or you are still nagging your child to finish them).  You and your child have just crossed a finish line. Your teenager has ... Read more

  • Heather B.

    As we approach the middle school/tween/preteen years, we are spending some time trying to equip ourselves for our sake and our son’s for this transition. We’ve been reading a great new book that we are really excited about, so I just have to share. It’s
    called “MiddleSchool: The Inside Story- What Kids Tell Us, But Don’t Tell You,” by Cynthia Tobias and Sue Acuna. It has interviews and feedback from middle schoolers, parents and teachers (and a little humor) to help us deal with tackling social media, technology, Internet, gaming, faith, purity, puberty, communication, independence, discipline and accountability, and deepening and strengthening positive, loving relationship. It’s so rich in valuable help as we face these transitional years with our kids. I think everyone with a middle schooler or who will
    have a middle schooler will benefit from it. I highly recommend it!

    http://www.tyndale.com/Middle-School-The-Inside-Story/9781589977778#.U8R_Gl4Q7wI